By cocodolenz, Aug 3 2015 01:00AM
Let’s say we meet a friend one afternoon and we say ‘Hi” How are you? And they reply. “I have such problems” You might question whether it was a good idea to ask them how they were in the first place. So you might say, “well how are you right now? I don’t see your problems.” They may then say, “well yes, I’m fine, but my problems are a burden.” I suggest that when we look to the cause and cure of human problems, we look not to the experience that caused the problem. We look to our reaction to that experience. What happened to us is important, true. But not as important as our response or reactions to the experiences.
One person may find themselves out of employment and they might say, “This is a great problem. I am troubled by this.” Someone else might come along and say “Well what an opportunity I have. I have been waiting to get free from this awful job. Now I can go out and do what I want to do and I am going to do it. “And they do. This is an example of the difference in reaction. And our reaction is the key as to whether we are going to be burdened with problems and elicit a type of response that will cause us to enter into despair or if our reaction is of a constructive nature, we turn it to our advantage and move on.
In the first scenario, we can anticipate great difficulties, and our anxiety conditions our reaction, as we react to things that have not yet happened. And these, are the greatest burdens of all. These are the greatest troubles of all. These are the things that will drive a person down in their attitudes of life. These are the things that seem to pull the rug out from under us emotionally and we find ourselves sinking deeper and deeper into a state of emotional depression. Not because of what ‘has’ happened, but because of what we think ‘might’ happen.
Interestingly enough, our anxiety seems to project itself and we end up doing exactly what we don’t want to do. We make the errors, stub the toes, suffer the various aches and pains, all because of our reaction to what we think ‘might’ take place. It’s like a self- fulfilling prophecy. It has been found that this physical anatomy of ours, this nervous system of ours, does not distinguish between that which is real and that which is imagined. Our feelings, our reactions about what has happened or that which we think ‘might’ happen is just as effective and just as debilitating, just as detrimental (or just as vitalizing) as if the occasion were real.
We know that exercise does it, but did you know when you and I are in a happy mood, which is just the thoughts we are currently having about something, endorphines rush through our body making us feel better. Find more reasons to laugh. It's an everyday, immediate way to give yourself an endorphin rush. The act of laughing stimulates the production of endorphins and helps you feel good instantly. Laughter helps to relieve stress and has many other physical and emotional benefits.
What does all this have to do with problems? Well I have found that answers & solutions to a problem (challenge) come easier to me when I am in a positive more receptive frame of mind. Doesn't matter how I got there. So the cause of problems? - Our reaction to experiences, our thoughts. The cure? - Choosing a different reaction - different thoughts. Simple, but not necessarily easy. But well worth experimenting with. Till Next time.... Namaste